As someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you know that the symptoms can be devastating. However, it's important to understand that there are ways to improve your condition and get your life back on track. Therapy is one of the most effective treatments for BPD. But what does therapy actually look like? How does it work? And how can you tell if it's working for you? In this guide, we'll discuss everything from what therapists do during a typical session to how long treatment lasts and how often it should happen. We'll also explain how therapy helps people suffering from BPD feel less overwhelmed by emotions—and why they should consider using this form of treatment as part of their recovery effort.

Identifying and Managing Anger

Identifying and Managing Anger

Anger is a secondary emotion that results from your response to an event or person. It can be triggered by fear, hurt, frustration, or even excitement. When you’re feeling angry, it feels like you are in control of your emotions and the situation around you. But anger can actually be triggered by traumatic events that happened years ago. These experiences leave deep scars on our psyche and prevent us from trusting other people—even when they mean well—because we’re afraid they will hurt us again.

Anger may have positive impacts on your life by helping you stand up for yourself against injustice and inequality; however, if anger becomes too intense it can lead to harmful behaviors such as lashing out at others verbally or physically in order to avoid dealing with difficult emotions like sadness or grief over an issue in life (e.g., death).

Understanding Emotions

A first step toward improving your borderline symptoms is to learn how to understand and identify emotions. How you feel emotionally can be hard to determine, and many people with borderline personality disorder find it difficult to figure out why they are feeling a certain way. The first step in learning about emotions is understanding what an emotion actually is.

It may seem obvious that an emotion is a feeling of some sort, but it's not always easy to tell whether or not something you're feeling is an emotion or simply a bodily sensation related to your body (such as pain). Emotions are essentially biochemical reactions that involve both physical changes within the brain and changes in behavior. Although there are many kinds of emotions—anger, sadness, fear—they all share common elements:

Addressing Fear of Abandonment

Fear of abandonment is a common symptom of borderline personality disorder (BPD). For example, you may fear that your partner will leave you or stop loving you. You may also feel like no one else can ever truly love or understand you.

In therapy, it's important to work on addressing this fear by learning how to manage your emotions and anger in healthier ways. By learning how to handle feelings of anger in healthy ways, such as venting them in a constructive way rather than lashing out at others, it's possible for people with BPD to reduce their fears about being abandoned.

Learning How To Self-Sooth And Cope With Stress

Self-soothing is an important skill to develop in therapy. It can be thought of as the ability to calm your body and mind when you're feeling stressed out, anxious or upset. Therapy techniques for learning self-soothing include:

  • Learning how to use mindfulness techniques like meditation and deep breathing exercises
  • Practicing relaxation techniques such as yoga or tai chi
  • Finding ways to de-stress that work for you, such as listening to music or taking a stroll through nature (if possible). Self-soothing takes time and effort but is well worth the investment if it helps you cope with stress more effectively.

Improving Communication Skills

Communication skills are an important part of relationship building, and one that is often overlooked. Being able to properly communicate your feelings and needs can help you build stronger relationships with others. It also helps you understand your own feelings better.

In therapy, communication is a crucial part of treatment because it allows the therapist to best understand your experience and provide appropriate care. Improving communication skills will not only make you more effective in communicating with other people but can also help you see things from a different perspective or identify patterns in your life that have been holding you back.

Working on Relationships

"If you want to improve your relationships with others, it's important that you begin by prioritizing communication and self-reflection. When we interact with others, we often don't realize how much we're actually saying without words."

You might find that some of the people on your list are difficult for you to communicate with or set boundaries with. If this is the case, try asking them what they think needs improvement in their relationship with you. You could also ask them questions about themselves that will help build intimacy and understanding between the two of you.

Ultimately, learning how to be more patient and forgiving will make all of your relationships better—especially if they include someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

Even though BPD is a chronic disorder, therapy can help you improve and get your life back on track.

While there is no cure for BPD, therapy can help you improve your symptoms. And while it may take some time and effort, the benefits of therapy far outweigh the challenges.

  • With therapy, you can learn to manage your emotions better.
  • As you become more aware of how certain situations affect you emotionally, and learn how to cope with them effectively (e.g., through mindfulness or other techniques), your relationships will improve as well as your self-esteem.


There is always hope for people with BPD to improve their lives. With the right kind of therapy, you can learn how to manage your symptoms and get back on track. With the right plan in place, you may be able to live a more fulfilling life and even repair damaged relationships with family members or friends