While it’s common to experience occasional anger or aggression, sometimes an individual may have a disproportionate response to perceived threats. This heightened, unstable reaction is known as narcissistic rage and can occur in those who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A person with NPD may feel slighted more easily than someone without NPD and may react in a way that seems extreme given the situation. They may not be able to control their emotions or their expression of emotion.
What is narcissistic rage?
So what is narcissistic rage? It is a reaction to feeling hurt, frustrated or threatened. Narcissistic rage is a defense mechanism. It's an outward expression of anger that results in an attempt to get attention, revenge and control.
It is also important to note that narcissistic rage does not have to be expressed physically. For example, if you ask your partner if they will take out the trash because it's full (and remember: you are doing this as part of setting boundaries), he may yell at you for making demands on him, call you names like "bitch," tell stories about how much more work he does around the house than any other person would do under similar circumstances and threaten not to do anything else for the rest of the day because he has been put off by your request (which was really just boundary setting). This behavior would be considered narcissistic rage because it involves using anger as a defense mechanism against feeling threatened—in this case, feeling like he wasn't being given enough attention—and trying to control his partner through threats and intimidation so she wouldn't make another request like this again (in other words: establishing power and control).
How to spot a narcissistic rage
The first and most important thing to do is to recognize when a person is experiencing narcissistic rage. The signs are often subtle, but can be observed in the following ways:
- They will suddenly become quiet or uncharacteristically reserved
- Their facial expression will change from warm and friendly to cold and distant
- They may increase their volume of speech with occasional shouting outbursts at times when this would be out-of-character for them (a good example being a normally soft-spoken woman becoming enraged due to a minor inconvenience)
Why does it happen?
The root of narcissistic rage lies in the narcissist’s deep-seated fear of abandonment. This is why it tends to be triggered when a person with NPD feels like someone has broken up with them, or is about to break up with them, or even just going on vacation without them. In their mind, this means that they don’t love the narcissist anymore (and they therefore think they won't be needed by anyone else either).
They also have a deep-seated fear of not being good enough in the eyes of others—this is why you may see narcissistic rages directed at friends and family members often times more than strangers. They feel as if those people should love them unconditionally because they themselves are so special and important that anyone who doesn't recognize their greatness must be wrong in some way!
Finally, many people on the spectrum experience feelings of intense loneliness and isolation—these feelings can lead to anxiety which can then lead back onto its own self-perpetuating cycle until something breaks its momentum: usually an outburst similar to this one!
How to treat narcissistic rage
Narcissistic rage is a common reaction to feeling threatened, and it can be difficult to treat. There are no easy solutions and no quick fixes, but there are some things you can try at home that may help ease the tension:
- Learn about narcissistic rage. Read about the causes of narcissistic rage, how society contributes to it, and what happens in your own body when you experience it. Understanding why you react as you do makes it easier for you to control your reactions by recognizing them before they take over.
- Learn how other people react when they experience narcissistic rage. Knowing more about this phenomenon will allow you to better understand why others might act strangely or say things they don't mean when they're angry—and help avoid triggering their anger unnecessarily!
Narcissistic Rage occurs in someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental disorder that involves an inflated sense of self-importance and a lack of empathy for others. It's defined by the American Psychiatric Association as having five or more of these traits:
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance. You believe you're better than other people.
- Is preoccupied with fantasies about success, power and beauty. You think, "I'm going to be famous!"
- Believes he or she is special and can only be understood by other special people or institutions like royalty, celebrities, etc. (This might explain why they overreact so much when they think someone has insulted them.)
- Requires excessive admiration from others; believes he/she deserves it all the time regardless how kind or generous their behavior has been towards their peers (i.e., if someone else gets attention from their partner but not them then there must be something wrong with those people instead). This trait can also manifest itself in jealousy towards anyone who receives praise for accomplishments—even those unrelated to narcissism such as winning awards at school activities--or getting praise from significant others such as parents and friends instead (i..e., if my mom tells my brother how proud she is that he got straight A's on every report card ever written up until now then she should also feel proud about how smart I am too instead!). The most extreme case of NPD might even lead some sufferers into criminal acts like murder because they feel entitled
Now that we’ve discussed what narcissistic rage is, how it works, and some tips on how to respond if you experience this type of anger yourself or with someone else close to you, we hope you feel better equipped to handle situations in your life. If anything in this article spoke directly to your needs, remember that there are always people who can help when things get too difficult. Even if it seems like everyone else is against you or being unreasonable with their demands