It’s a good thing that more people are talking about borderline personality disorder (BPD) these days. But it’s still an incredibly misunderstood condition, one that affects many people but is often misdiagnosed, misunderstood and stigmatized. I want to take the time to give you some insight into what BPD is and how it can affect relationships, so that when you're in one with someone who has BPD, or if you yourself have BPD and are looking for a partner who understands what you go through on a daily basis—you'll know exactly what's going on.

#1 - What is borderline personality disorder?

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness that affects 1% of the population. People with BPD experience extreme emotional ups and downs, have difficulty regulating their feelings and behavior, and struggle in relationships.

People with BPD often have episodes of intense anger, depression, anxiety or worry that last from a few hours to days. They may also have impulsive behaviors such as spending sprees, reckless driving or binge eating. These symptoms can be so severe that they interfere with daily life at home or work.

#2 - Misconceptions about BPD

Misconceptions about BPD are common, but there are some myths that really need to be put to rest. The most important misconception is that people with BPD have a personality disorder. In fact, it's not even considered a mental illness by the American Psychiatric Association! People often confuse BPD with other mental health issues like bipolar disorder or schizophrenia, but these disorders are very different from BPD in many ways. For example:

  • People with bipolar disorder experience extreme shifts in moods (known as manic and depressive episodes), while those with borderline personality disorder experience persistent emotional instability which impacts their relationships with others and themselves—but they don't necessarily go through dramatic shifts in mood over time like someone who has bipolar disorder would do.[1]
  • Another common misconception is that people who suffer from borderline personality disorder need therapy or medication to help them get better—this isn't true either! While therapy can definitely help treat some aspects of borderline personality disorder including suicidal thoughts caused by self-loathing feelings about oneself or anger resulting from past trauma experienced throughout life experiences such as abuse suffered during childhood years.[2] Medication might also help reduce symptoms related

#3 - The criteria for diagnosing BPD

The criteria for diagnosing BPD, as defined by the DSM-5, are:

  • Identity disturbance (a strong sense of self is lacking)
  • Impulsivity (acting without thinking about consequences)
  • Affective instability (rapidly changing moods and intense emotions)
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom

These symptoms last at least 4 weeks, and hospitalization is required if suicidal behavior occurs more than once in a 12 month period.

#4 - Features of borderline personality in relationships

Borderline personality disorder has a profound effect on romantic relationships. To help you determine if you are in a relationship with someone who has BPD, it would be helpful to first understand the symptoms of this condition and how they manifest themselves in romantic relationships.

It is important that you take time to learn about borderline personality disorder as well as its effects on romantic relationships so that you can identify the signs of this condition when they occur. Learning about BPD will also help you recognize behaviors in others (including yourself) which may indicate borderline personality traits or traits associated with other mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder or schizophrenia.

#5 - The ups and downs of a borderline personality relationship

It can be extremely challenging to get through a relationship with a partner who has borderline personality disorder. The other person’s extreme mood swings and the resulting roller-coaster of emotions are often exhausting and frightening for the other partner. They may feel like they are going crazy because they have no idea what will trigger their partner, or whether they will be able to talk their way down from an emotional high or low. This can cause the relationship to feel unpredictable or even dangerous at times, especially if there is violence involved in any way (either between partners).

#6 - How to make the relationship work

The first step to making a relationship work is to be aware of the symptoms and how they affect your relationships. Once you understand what is going on with yourself, it will be easier to know how best to manage the situation. You should also get help from a professional who has experience working with borderline personality disorder. If you are in a romantic relationship with someone who has BPD, it's important that you do not lose hope or give up on them, even if it seems hopeless at times. There are treatments available that can help both parties in these situations reclaim their mental health and learn how to love again..

#7 - 7 ways to spot a bad partner when you have borderline personality disorder

If you have borderline personality disorder, here are some signs to watch out for when dating a new person:

  • They don't seem interested in your feelings or opinions.
  • You can't talk to them about your thoughts, needs or desires without them getting defensive.
  • They criticize your health, appearance and lifestyle choices without any regard for how they make you feel.

The more we understand, the better we can help those affected.

As a society, we are all affected by mental illness. We see it in our friends and family, in the news, and on social media. Understanding what it is and how to treat it will help us better support those who have been diagnosed with a mental illness. It also helps us understand ourselves better so that we can take care of our own mental health as well as the people around us.


The more we understand, the better we can help those affected. If you’re dealing with borderline personality disorder (BPD) yourself or caring for someone who is, you may feel lost and confused at times. But by learning about this complex condition, it will help you understand what your loved one is going through and how best to support them.